I’m going to give you the benefit of the doubt and assume that you have misunderstood me. I don’t see this as a competition between women’s pain and men’s pain. Like you, I’m interested in writing about men’s pain. Where we may disagree is that I don’t think we have to bash women to write about men’s pain.

I’m interested in having your voice included here as long as you talk about men’s fears and men’s pain, but ask you to refrain from angry attacks on women or anyone else.