How to Look Forward to Arguing

Like most guys I would rather face the muzzle of an assault rifle than a pissed off wife.

— Wild Fire by Nelson DeMille

If you think makeup sex is something that only happens in the movies, this post is for you.

It is not uncommon in my work as a psychotherapist to talk to men who have become so conflict-avoidant that placating their wives is the most important thing in the relationship to them. They are so scared of their partner’s disapproval that they’ve essentially given up on any efforts to try to work things out or get closer. All they want…