Men’s Fear of Commitment Marriage is an institution. If you want to spend the rest of your life in an institution, go right ahead. Father to his son on his wedding day. The stereotype in our culture is that marriage is an institution that benefits women but costs men, so…

The paradox of men’s lives is they have all the power but do not feel powerful. The classic “Still Face” developmental psychology experiment begins with a mother and her infant child playing with each other as they normally do. The split screen makes it clear that they are in a…

How to Look Forward to Arguing Like most guys I would rather face the muzzle of an assault rifle than a pissed off wife. — Wild Fire by Nelson DeMille If you think makeup sex is something that only happens in the movies, this post is for you. It is…

“When men imagine a female uprising, they imagine a world in which women rule men as men have ruled women.” –Sally Kempton, “Meditation for the Love of It.” Tom is a young man in his late 20s who is in his first serious relationship with Nancy. Ever since Nancy moved…

Some reasons why. — The New York Times Sunday magazine published a piece entitled “I Used to Insist I Didn’t Get Angry: Not Anymore.” The author, a woman, courageously explores the topic of societal and internalized prohibitions against women experiencing, much less expressing, anger and talks about growing up believing that she didn’t get…

The preacher asked her And she said I do The preacher asked me And she said yes, he does too And the preacher said I pronounce you 99 to life Son she’s no lady she’s your wife — Lyle Lovett, “She’s No Lady” These Lyle Lovett lyrics are one of…

Most boys in our culture are raised by women, which means that they are dependent on women for just about all of their physical and emotional needs for an extended period of time. When they are hungry, it was likely a woman who fed them. When they were distressed, it…

Psychotherapists like to reduce the complexity of human emotional experience to four categories: mad, sad, glad, or scared. Of the four, mad is the emotion that men are most familiar and comfortable with. Ask men how they feel and you are likely to get a puzzled expression, unless of course…

“Personally, it has taken me 47 years to stop calling people who are mean to you, ‘in love’ with you.” — Uma Thurman I saw an all too familiar, but deeply disturbing sight the other day. I watched a young man, stand in the light rain with his son, who…